Truth be told I have been guilty of being a people pleaser for a long time. That was how was raised and all I knew until I did free myself with the complicity of the travelling husband who showed me in all these years together that you can completely ignore the meaning of pleasing others and still live a perfectly happy life. Don’t get me wrong he is not a disliking person but he is certainly not obsessed to be liked and the fact that this has more to do with him being oblivious to the majority of what surrounds him rather than with him being a wise man, doesn’t change the ultimate reality that he is indeed a man in peace with himself.
Back to me, living with such a font of inspiration for such a long time gave me the impute to work on myself and after a lot of hard work, I learnt that I cannot be liked by everyone and that’s ok, especially considering that I don’t even want to. Let’s be honest there are a lot of people out there that we don’t really give a f..k if they like us or not, so why waste precious time and energy trying to please them. We are who we are, the way we are (wishing the limits of decency and respect of course): take it or leave it.
In this liberating journey of mine, I also learnt that unfortunately there are exceptions and will always be: your kids’ friends and your husband’s young colleagues, for example.
Now stay tuned and wait for the next two post to learn how to defeat them😉